Customer Reviews
The Only Book You Will Ever Need - By: Lou, 19 May 2008 
This book is an absolute must for anyone going through the trauma of a relationship breakdown - not only those who were married. It's writtenin such a straightforward & caring way - & you'll feel that Dr Fisher had written it just for you. It separates the various aspects of the emotional rollercoaster you feel you're travelling on & allows you to examine each of them separately, which enables you to understand & make sense of the turmoil.
In the depths of despair, when you feel there's nowhere to turn & there's no glimmer of hope anymore, this book throws you a lifeline.
This book is invaluable!
FOR ALL BREAK UPS TRY THIS - By: , 01 Jan 2004 I bought this book not realizing it was intended for divorce & I'm glad I hadn't as it's helped me enormously. I was not married but my partner moved out without any warning, completely out of the blue & has left my lifein tatters. This book has shown me the stages to healing & starting again. I can promise that you will relate to the things that are writtenin the book! it's very uncanny how spot on it is. I'm only half way up the 'rebuilding' mountain but I dread to think where I would be if I hadn't had some support. Great for helping out when you've talked all your friends to death!!!
A great book for personal growth - By: , 26 Aug 1999 As someone trying to get over a seven-year relationship backin 1994, this book was my savior. I needed to understand why I felt what I felt. This book allowed me to understand the mix of emotions & turmoil I was going through. And contrary to other books offering more creative approaches, Bruce Fisher's actually explains the complex psychological process of grief, loss & recovery. I still read it today to understand other's feelings & reactions & to better manage my current relationships. A must.
Excellent. Clarifies the process at a much needed time. - By: , 17 Jun 1999 I've used this bookin earnest twice. Both times at the depths of despair. It helped me out of those times faster & clearer than by just muddling through. It also taught me about my own contribution to the end, rather than just blaming the other person entirely. I'd recommend reading it when the relationship is going well, as you'll wish you had if things go wrong.
hurting now? this WILL provide relief and insight... - By: , 31 Mar 1999 bruce can quietly focus your pain, helping you see how you can step beyond it & maybe use it to change "invalid programming" so you can stop hurting now.
he gives 15 building blocks, which differ from the 12 (strongly-ordered) stepsin that you can start with any of the 15, whichever gives you the hardest "hit." in this way, you can gain a little self-confidence from the self-direction, if so guided. although all are interrelated (and life will teach you something about each if you don't step up & deal but that's why you're reading this now), bruce wrote each section to stand alone.
this is the place to start a journey. bruce's kindness might seem bland to one not actively scouring her soul on a momentary basis (as i was.) but that makes this a better place to start while still actively hurting. bruce gives lots of good basic how & why, allowing you to save the in-depth how & why for a little later...
i recommend ayanla vansant (how to integrate the divine) & brad blanton (how to integrate honesty) for the later work.
