Customer Reviews

THE book to read if you want to solve the mystery of love! - By: , 16 Sep 2004
Barry Long's book is not only original & groundbreaking; but also highly important & timelessly resonating with truth. If you are one who is looking for a book full of detailed descriptions of sexual acts, positions, & feelings; then you will be dissapointed here, because the author goesin to specific lengthin explaining how the man & woman should avoid sexual & emotional excitation. It may seem drastic, but his words are not a change or an alternative remedy for an ailing love life. His words are a very eye opening guide into the reality of divine union between the man & the woman; the sacred attracting principle.

If a man & a woman truly want to be happyin intimacy; then they must take the actual act of lovemaking as the core part of their intimacy generation. Barry Long explains that almost everybody on the planet has forgotten how to make true love; & this is because people make love with emotional expectation, with sexual excitation, with premeditated intent for an orgasm, & for physical release & projection of fantasy. And hence, by forgetting how to make true love, people, for thousands of years, have been making emotional love - a phantom love fed on the desires of self satisfaction; & thus a love that can never last because (like the ego) it can never be satisfied.

Barry Long explains & emphasises what attitude the man & the woman should havein each situation of intimacy, & that there should be honesty first, as well as, importantly, a consistent intention between the two that they do not seek to make love for the sake of a physical release or an orgasmic 'end'. But to make love simply for the pleasure of making love with each other, & for beingin the 'present' during every millisecond of the act, rather than projecting their fantasies & getting excited about orgasm & fetishizing the respective partners' body.

Barry Long's book is excellent because it turns out to be the truth, & that true love & intimacy is something lasting & something ecstatic as opposed to the draining emotionality, expectance, & fantasy that is emtional\human love. His crucial point, is that if men & women want to be happy - they have to work on cooling their lower selves, & stop making love with excitment, projected fantasy, & premeditated orgasmic intent. He explains that as a result, the pleasure is astronomically higher, & that the bond between the man & the woman is strengthened. In order to strengthen the bond, he states that (seemingly contradictingly) one has to stop becoming emotionally attached, & to see the Divine behind one's wife or husband. When one becomes detached emotionally, then the spiritual bond strengthensin the knowledge that she or he is immortal, always existsin God's knowledge, & hence one is contentin their love for them for the sake of their existence alone, rather than their wish to be emotionally involved with them to get something from them for the 'self'.

Allin all, a superb book, & a potential life-changer, even though I do not agree with everything he says, there is a massive amount to be gained from this book, & it is truly the only book one needs to read if you want to get married or are curious about the truth regarding sex & love.